By Kali Kushner
Having acne can be hard enough without all of the emotional burden it carries. Perhaps one of the most common questions I get asked over and over again is “how are you so confident?” Being plagued by cystic acne for years is extremely difficult and at times, can have a serious impact on your mental and emotional health. There have been days, weeks even, where I felt that I couldn’t leave the house because I was so ashamed of my skin. If you’ve ever felt this way, this articles for you. Below are my top 5 tips that I use daily to stay confident when dealing with a breakout!
Quit Comparing Yourself To Instagram Hotties
Right, so this is a big one. Especially right now in the age of social media where everything is perfectly photoshopped with the exact right angles and filters; comparing yourself to these impossible standards of beauty is absolutely ridiculous. Most of what we see online isn’t real, and comparing your realistic self to something unrealistic just isn’t fair to YOU!
Luckily, many beauty gurus and Hollywood stars alike have jumped on the Au naturale bandwagon, shaming photoshop or outting themselves for ever using it in the first place. With more positive self love spread and these idealistic standards thrown away, it’s creating a safe space where all women feel comfortable to be their raw, true, selves.
Don’t Worry What Others Might Think
Who cares what josh, Jim, or Nancy think?! At the end of the day it’s your life, your face, your space- not theirs! You go home to your bed and they go home to theirs, don’t let anyone opinion of you influence how you feel about yourself.
Surround yourself with loving, caring people who want the best for you. Never ever feel like you have to stay in a toxic relationship with a boyfriend or a friend who is creating feelings of insecurity within yourself.
Believe it or not, people don’t care about your acne. That’s right I said it, no one cares! Everyone has their own insecurity and most of the time people are too focused on their own to even notice yours. Think about it- do you notice when someone else has acne? Probably not! That’s because we’re more interested in how the person acts and who they are then what they look like.
Realize You Are Doing Your Best
You’ve probably gotten 6000000 million suggestions by now about how you should or should not be treating your skin from family members, friends, and complete strangers. It’s unsolicited and annoying yes BUT do realize that they are only trying to help. I know, I know, if they’ve never struggled with severe acne and they aren’t experienced- how could their advice actually help? Well it probably won’t but again, they can’t understand something they’ve never personally experienced.
Next time you receive a piece of advice on how to deal with your skin politely let them know “ My Dermatologist and I have an action plan for my acne and I am doing all I can, it is very stubborn”.
Don’t let their advice phase you! If you have acne like me I’m sure you’ve tried absolutely everything under the sun to get it under control. You know exactly what you have and have not tried, wether or not your current regimen is working, and that you are actively trying your best to manage your skin.
Quit Habitually Checking Your Reflection (Or Completely Avoiding it)
So this one can swing both ways, I’ve been a person who completely avoids mirrors and one that can’t stop looking at them. Quit both of these things! I promise you, neither obsessing over your acne or completely avoiding it will make it go away. Just relax, realize that your breakout is only temporary and that it will go away eventually- stressing out about it does NOTHING to improve your situation, if anything it makes it worse. Instead show yourself kindness and love.
When you wake up each morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself something you love about yourself to get the self love juices flowinnn. It’s a bit cheesy, yes, but it totally helps to restore that confidence in ourselves that we can continue to build upon daily.
Avoid Withdrawing From Social Interaction
Is staying home from date night or a big party really going to make you feel any better about that pimple? No it’s not! It’s just going to reinforce the idea that having acne is embarrassing or shameful, making you feel more anxious and self conscious, and eventually you’ll find yourself opting to stay home more and more often. Instead, regardless of your skin, force yourself to go out there and live your life.
How disappointing would it be to miss out on big events like graduation, a first date, a concert, or a sports game because you were too worried about your skin? What would you tell your best friend, your sister, or your future (or current) children if they were in the same situation? Most likely to suck it up and not miss out- we’ll I’m telling you the same thing!
Kali Kushner, known as the Instagram alias myfacestory, is a natural beauty advocate in the greater Cincinnati area who is passionate about using organic skincare and holistic remedies to heal acne from the inside out. Her dedication lies in her own chronic acne struggles as she continues to restore herself while helping those around her.